Friday, February 29, 2008

I'm in need of some advice.  What do you do when both kids need you at the exact same moment?  Who do you choose to help out?  It seems like around our house, we have relative peace that can last for about an hour or so. Okay, thirty minutes.  Okay, 5 minutes.  But they both seem to need something AT THE EXACT SAME TIME.  Kendall wants to eat, Cason wants dinner.  Kendall needs to be held, Cason wants someone to turn on Cars for him.  Kendall needs to be bounced in her bouncy seat, Cason needs someone to get him a snack.  They always need something and they are both pretty helpless.  


So what do you do?  I need some answers, from those with more than one kid, those with one child, those with no kids and those that don't even like to look at kids.  Who do you help first?  I'm thinking the one that cries the loudest, but what do I know?

9 comments:

Audrey said...

Love the new header! Very cute! I would say more than likely, I help the baby. I was told once by a very wise friend that if you are feeding the baby, NEVER, help the older child until you are done. Once you do it then they will always know that you will drop what you are doing and rush to their need. Unless of course the older one is in danger. I have been known to be nursing an infant and pulling the pants down of a certain toddler so they can poop. AND wipe that bottom and wash my one hand all while nursing. Oh yeah, I'm super mom! Anyway, I try to be sure that Carson is pretty set with what he needs before I start in with her. Of course, Carson can start his own movies now so that helps. Anyway, no real answers, just know that they won't starve or die while you tend to the other. Can you imagine multiples? Sorry this was so long.

Jen said...

I tried to help Ty first because he knows that I am ignoring him. Generally, I could nurse Bryce and do (fill in the blank) for Ty. Beyond that, babies just cry a lot anyway so I always felt they could cry for 5 more minutes while I helped Ty.

Shannon said...

I tend to help whoever needs it most, or who is quietest. This is because when I helped who screamed loudest it became a contest to scream loader than your sister in our house. Boy was that no fun! I started helping whoever was quietly waiting and now it's not so bad. I can at least explain to Sophy "as soon as I _____ for sissy". That helped. Also I started getting her to help me. If she started saying I want juice right when lola is screaming for a baba I tell Sophy to go find a sippy cup and I make the bottle while she's looking. She'll bring it to me and I throw it in the sink and make her a new one while lola is happily eating! It took a while to find my groove, but it seems to work. It sure did help once lola wasn't nursing anymore, but I kept milk stored for those times.

Jessica said...

Sounds to me like you're coddling both of them and they need to buck up and take some responsibility for their own lives. No one's going to get into Harvard or be a NASCAR driver if he can't load "Cars" into the TV.

And I don't understand why Kendall isn't feeding herself. Forget the breast....hold up your own fork and slice your own steak, Lady! Never gonna make it in Theta if your mom keeps feeding you all the time.

Just kidding! Having no children, but also having a younger sister, I remember feeling like everything was always about her. Her crying her eating habits, her activities. So annoying. Maybe mix it up. One time Cason gets what he wants, one time Kendall gets what she wants. Unless it's an emergency. But don't always focus on baby first...older kids remember that as they become resentful adults.

It's ok...only small levels of bitterness left here....

OR, call Jessica to come over and steal one of them for a day then you can focus solely on one at a time!

You should ask Kate Gosseling how she does it with 8...

Shellie said...

yeah Kate should be your guru Emily! I have two kids also... I usually just help the one who I'm nearest, or its easier to fix their issue first. Like if Dallen wants to watch a movie or get some toys down I'd help him first becasue I knew bfeeding Kate would take a good 20 - 30 min and I didn't think he'd want to wait that long for me.

ChandraJoy said...

If you do figure it out, could you give me a heads up?! That is not something I am looking forward to, because I know that I have Alli pretty spoiled with jumping at her every demand. I'm trying to change that a little now, but....

Elizabeth said...

I tend to whomever is the sickest, poopiest, messiest, hungriest,or is in a harmful situation. I try to get one of them situated first and then deal with the other one. In the times, they both need something and I can't figure it out, I just sing a bible song really, really loud and it shocks them and calms me down because I inevitably start laughing at myself for being so crazy.

Melanie said...

I am with Jen. RIght now things are easy because they understand waiting. But, when Reese was little that was not the case. Ethan knew that he was being ignored, so I would tend to him first. The exception would be breast feeding, in which case I would do the feeding along with whatever Ethan needed. Hang in there! It gets so much better!

CindyPTN said...

Hi from the Ultimate Blog Party! I saw this post and it's exactly like that at my house. I agree, the one crying the loudest (unless it's a whine, which I try very hard to ignore) or in the most urgent situation. Mine are 13 months apart and sometimes it's crazy how they pick just that one moment to wreck havoc!

My priorities:
1. Potty Yells are always on top unless the other is a life threatening situation (thankfully, not the case).
2. Food needs based on last time they've eaten.
3. Toss up. Which ever I feel like it!